You have the Right to Ask

Guest post by Majeed
Mogharreban, co-author (with Bob Urichuck) of Winning At Life:
Your Personal Success Guidebook

Target audience is young person in high
school

“Ask
and it shall be given you; seek and ye shall find; knock and it shall be opened
unto you. For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and
to him that knocketh it shall be opened.”’
Luke 11: 9–10, Holy Bible

Why
don’t people simply ask for what they want? Mostly, it is because of our fear
of rejection, our fear of losing face or our fear of being embarrassed. It all
relates to the fear of what may happen. We will discuss fear in greater detail
in Discipline # 4: Know Yourself, but for now, let us understand a few things
about asking.

If
you don’t ask, you don’t get. Do you agree? By simply not asking the question,
the answer is automatically “NO!” You lose simply by not asking. Why, you ask?
The answer is simple, if you have the courage to ask, you increase the odds of
getting a “yes” answer. At least the odds are greater than zero, right? Just
the simple act of asking increases your odds of getting a positive response. If
you do ask, and you get a “no,” did you lose anything? Not really, because you
cannot lose something you never had in the first place. Make it a habit to ask,
and be careful what you ask for, because you may just get it!

Try
not to be shy about asking those essential questions. The worst response you
can get is “no.” What have you lost if a “no” is the answer? Not much, since
you cannot lose something you never had. Now imagine a case where you ask the
same question, but this time the answer is “yes.” You are much further ahead
now, are you not?

Here
is a technique I used through high school and university to guarantee top marks
in English class. I would write the paper a week early, then bring it in to the
teacher, and ask him or her to tell me how I could improve it. They would take
a look, then they would give me some feedback, and I would make changes accordingly.
I would almost always get an “A” on the paper, not because I was an excellent
writer, but because I got feedback and improved my writing according to that
feedback.

Whenever
I didn’t get an “A” I would ask if I could rewrite the paper. They almost always
said “yes.” If I had never asked for help, or for a second chance, I certainly
would never have gotten the chance.

This
book is all about asking. It will guide you through the process of asking
yourself some tough questions that will require some soul-searching. As you
discover the answers and write them down in the space provided, you will find
out more about yourself and what you really want out of life. Remember, you are
the author of your future. Knowing this will increase your motivation, your confidence,
your self-esteem, your self-respect and your self-worth. You will proceed to
create a plan where you can seek out the opportunities that will give you the
life you crave.

Ask
of yourself, ask of others, and ask often. Try not to be shy to ask. If you
don’t ask, you don’t get.

The
same theory applies in your life. The more you ask, the more you get. If you
want to improve your grades in school, or you want the help of a tutor, or you
do not understand something, or you strive for more out of life, what must you
do? You must simply ask!

Remember
how I asked my English teachers for help? I use the same technique in all areas
of my life. I will ask for your help. How can I improve this book? How can I
improve my speeches? How can I be a better person? Will you help me?

Everyone
has the right to ask! Make it a habit to ask. The simple act of asking can
change your life.

Majeed
Mogharreban
@majeedm
+1 (613)-292-1159 [Canada]

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